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How to Pick Your Wedding Date

There are so many things to think about when planning a wedding. Some people have the majority of it figured out way before they are even engaged. One of those things they usually don’t have planned is the actual wedding date. Picking the wedding date seems like a small and simple choice, but truthfully, it can be a hard decision to make that affects everything. Today I’m giving you a few things to consider and some tips on how to pick your wedding date.

Availability of vendors

There are different ways to choose a wedding date, but one that I think is important is picking one when your favorite vendors are available. I actually just had a couple tell me they were planning the date around me. Almost made me cry!

One of the first things to get booked is the wedding venue. I know a few venues that are booked up over a year in advance. To some, the wedding venue is the most important thing. There is no right or wrong to this. Think about what vendors matter the most to you. It might be a DJ, a wedding venue, or even something like a musician. 

How to Pick Your Wedding Date

Reach out to that vendor as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the fewer dates you will have. You might even talk to them before you get engaged (as long as you know the proposal is coming).


Money, money, money. It seems like that is talked about more than anything when it comes to weddings. If you’re on a tight budget, you might pick a wedding date to help out.

 The Day of The Week

Like most things in life, there are times that things are busier or more popular. The same is true for weddings. Certain dates have a lot of competition, so if you choose one that isn’t in prime wedding time, you can probably get a discount from multiple vendors.

The first thing would be to look at Friday or Sunday weddings. This has become very popular lately. It’s still around the weekend, and I’ve seen plenty of venues that offer a discount. If that doesn’t work, you can try Monday through Thursday. This might be a problem for your guests, but I bet you can get some nice deals.

Peak Season vs Off Season

Besides the days of the week, you can look at certain seasons. For the longest time summer weddings were really popular. I think that’s because it’s generally when people travel or vacation. Now, fall weddings are the most popular. October is by far the craziest month for me. I’m usually bored December- February so I’m always excited to shoot a wedding in those months. If you plan your wedding for the off season, most vendors will give you a discount. 

Special Dates

For some couples, they want their wedding date to be something special. Over the years, I’ve had several that were really interesting. 


Most people love holidays, so why not choose your wedding date on one? Over the years, I’ve been to weddings on Halloween, New Years Eve, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, and even Christmas Even.  Holidays can be popular because there are certain feelings or benefits connected to each. Memorial Day weekend is a popular date because it’s a three day weekend for almost everyone. New Years would be another fun one if you’re the partying type.

confetti shot into air at wedding

Be careful with holidays, though. Getting married on Christmas Eve will be way different than on President’s Day. Most people will be spending time with their family on the big holidays and you might lose a lot of guests. 

Unique Numbers

Besides holidays, I’ve known several couples pick a date based on the numbers. It could be something like 12/12/12 or 7/8/9. 10/10/20 was a crazy one. I had like 20 people ask about it. It really doesn’t matter the pattern as long as you think it’s neat.

Birthdays & Anniversaries

The date could also have other special meanings. I did a wedding on a Wednesday, and they chose the date because both of their parents happened to get married on that date. I’ve also known people to have their big day on someone’s birthday to remember them. 

The Weather 

Are you a hot or cold person? I prefer the cold. I’d much rather be bundled up than dripping sweat everywhere. Do you want to worry about rain during your outdoor ceremony? The weather can be a big factor in making your decision.

Think about the normal weather for your area. A spring wedding has a higher chance of rain while a winter wedding could have ice and snow. Of course, nothing is ever guaranteed. 

Sports and other events

I live in a college town, so that means football games change the entire area. When there is a home football game, there aren’t many hotels, traffic stinks, and everything is crowded. You should take that into consideration and how it will affect things and your guests. Do you really want them to have to pick between your wedding and a football game?

This can be hard because some things will get scheduled after you already have your wedding day picked. The best thing you can do is research and look for things that happen every year and avoid them. 

School & Work Schedules

Another thing that can make it difficult for your guests is school and work. I mentioned earlier that a weekday wedding like a Friday could save you money, but most people work on Friday or their kids have school. Summer time will give people a bit more flexibility, but still most people are going to be working during the week. 

Important People

In my mind, weddings are about the people, and your wedding date should take people into consideration. How will your wedding date affect everyone? Will they be able to make it if it’s a Friday wedding? Will they be happy if it’s freezing outside?

I’d start off by talking to the most important people and see if there are any dates or things that would cause them problems. From there, you can start looking at the other things I mentioned.

What’s important to you?

In the end, focus on what matters most to you. It’s your wedding and you should be happy. Look at all the things I included above and decide which matters most to you. Is it the venue? A special date? People? Take that into consideration and that should help you pick your wedding date.

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